A Father’s Journey Through His Son’s Addiction
Pride Aside is one Father’s attempt to be vocal about his
son’s addiction, and how their family has navigated this
perilous journey together.
“Raw, brutally transparent, real, heart-wrenching,
inspiring, relatable, frustrating, unsettling,
“A gift of unsettled but secure
promise to those who are struggling
along the broken road called life.”
Dr. Rob Futral, Senior Pastor
Broadmoor Baptist Church, Madison MS
On our website, we have a tab titled Your Story. Cindy from Alabama shared her story below. Please join us in praying for Cindy and her family.
My husband and I were married for 7 years when my son was born. During my pregnancy, it became very evident that my husband was not committed to our marriage. I also realized that his drinking problem was out of control. He was not interested in changing and had other love interests on the side. When my son was 14 months old, I decided that I could not handle the situation anymore. My son and I left.
Mr son’s father then attempted to become Super Dad!! He and his family showered my son with love and attention. I was blessed by meeting my current husband. We have a strong marriage and have now been married for 26 years.
My son became a Christian at an early age. He felt the calling to be baptized and attended church with us on a regular basis. At the age of 15, everything seemed to take a turn. My son began to experiment with drugs and alcohol. My son resented any attempt my husband and I tried to do to help him. He continued to visit with his father. My son was arrested at the age of 16 for driving under the influence. He did community service and attended an out-patient drug treatment program. Everything seemed to be good for awhile.
Once again, my son became rebellious and angry. It was like watching a train wreck and not knowing how to stop the wreck. We attended various programs, went for counseling and whatever we thought might help. Life rocked on like this for the next 10 years. We would have good periods of time and then bad. My son began to stay more and more with his father. I was extremely naive and very trusting that his father had my son’s best interest at heart. These last five years have been very eye opening for me.
It turns out that my son and his father have been doing drugs and drinking together for years. My son recently told me that his father had him rolling joints for him at the age of 15! My son became involved with a young lady that had a very rough past. She was involved with a drug dealer for years. They both seemed to want to leave their past behind a make a good future. She became pregnant with my first grandchild. Three months after my grandson was born, my son and this young lady, began a road of drugs again. My grandson is now 6 years old. My grandson has lived with us since he was 3 months old. We adopted my grandson last year. He is a joy. I pray everyday we can provide a good life for my grandson. I pray I have learned from my mistakes and not let my grandson be involved in things that will lead him down the path his father chose.
My son and his girlfriend are both now in prison. My son is working a work-release program at the present time. He hopes to make parole soon. As much as I pray for him to get out of prison and make a good life for himself, I am so afraid to have to deal with him as he experiences freedom once again. Legally, he has no rights to his son but emotionally is another story.
I heard a portion of your story on Rick and Bubba this morning and other parents that have been through similar experiences. I felt the need to tell my story and appreciate this outlet to put into words what we have been through. I pray for my son everyday and other families that are going through similar situations.