A Father’s Journey Through His Son’s Addiction
Pride Aside is one Father’s attempt to be vocal about his
son’s addiction, and how their family has navigated this
perilous journey together.
“Raw, brutally transparent, real, heart-wrenching,
inspiring, relatable, frustrating, unsettling,
“A gift of unsettled but secure
promise to those who are struggling
along the broken road called life.”
Dr. Rob Futral, Senior Pastor
Broadmoor Baptist Church, Madison MS
Ben called tonight while we were having dinner at a local restaurant. Joni and I left our food sitting on the table and stepped outside to speak to him. I had mentioned in my last letter to him that I went ahead and wrote the book and he was asking me about it. I shared just a few highlights, and he interrupted and brought up the point I had made to him a couple of months ago about the happy ending. He began to cry and said, “I think the happy ending is happening.” He shared that he truly feels God has him at the right place at the right time at Teen Challenge in Brookings, SD. His biggest struggle since he has arrived is that he still has horrible compulsive thoughts, OCD type thoughts that consume him for hours at a time. They literally paralyze him, and have for years. There is one older student there in Brookings that for some reason Ben felt like he wanted to talk to about what was going on in his head. Ben approached him and asked if they could talk. The man said yes, but their schedules are so filled from sun up to sun down, that it would be hard to find the time. After a day had passed, Ben said he was sitting alone and in his mind had decided he no longer was going to share what was going on in his head with this man. As soon as Ben came to that conclusion, the man walked up and said, “Ben, I know we have not found time to get together to talk, but God already told me what you wanted to talk about. God told me last night that you have horrible thoughts in your head, and it is driving you insane. You need to know, I had those thoughts also. Pretty much everyone in here has. They will go away. It took three or four months but my thoughts are now much less frequent. God will take those thoughts away.” Ben talked about these thoughts with his counselor, and his counselor took him to the chapel and said, “You have to cry out to God.” Ben literally screamed out, prayed, cried out, yelled, and felt relief coming over his mind and body. So Joni and I have learned to say this…Today, Ben is good. There was a happy ending to today. Ben is realizing he can cope with the physical and mental challenges he will face as a result of several years of drug abuse and addiction, one day at a time. It is so easy to say, and so hard to do. We both are so proud that he is willing to wake up and fight this disease daily. The disease still lingers, but Ben is still willing to fight it. Your continued prayers for Ben, Michael, and our entire family are still greatly appreciated.